Understandably, it can be difficult to put yourself in the shoes of someone who has a physical disability if you’ve never experienced it yourself. However, like most things, it helps to be a little thoughtful when communicating with someone who has a physical disability.
The following are some things we don’t recommend saying to someone who uses a wheelchair.
Avoid Saying This a Wheelchair User
#1 – You’re such an inspiration.
Why you shouldn’t say it:
Keep in mind that wheelchair users are just regular people like yourself who are performing many of the same daily tasks that you are! Praising them for doing something that everyone does can sometimes single them out and make them feel uncomfortable.
#2 – “I parked here because I just needed to run in and grab something quick.”
Why you shouldn’t say it:
Parking your vehicle in a handicap space is a huge No-No. Keep in mind that handicap spaces are there for a reason. The few minutes it may take you to run in and do some light grocery shopping may be the exact moment that someone with a physical disability drives up looking for a parking space. Also keep in mind the fact that handicap spaces are wider/larger to allow people with physical disabilities enough room to safely get out of their vehicle.
#3 – What happened?
Why you shouldn’t say it:
Unless you know the person extremely well, it is considered rude and inappropriate to ask someone a personal question about the root cause of their physical disability. If they don’t offer first, don’t ask.
#4 – “I had to use a wheelchair when I broke my leg, so I know how you feel.”
Why you shouldn’t say it:
Everyone’s experience with mobility challenges is different. Most importantly, you cannot begin to compare a broken leg (which is temporary) to someone who may have a permanent physical disability. The two are like night and day, and trying to compare yourself in this way is not only demeaning; it can be demoralizing. Don’t do it!
#5 – Don’t squat down to talk to someone in a wheelchair.
Why you shouldn’t do it:
Unless the wheelchair user is a child, you should avoid squatting down to speak to someone in a wheelchair. Many adult wheelchair users view this as patronizing. If anything, you can ask the wheelchair user if they would prefer you to sit down or remain standing. Whatever you do, do not assume!
What are things can you think of? What sorts of positive actions can non-wheelchair users take when communicating with wheelchair users?
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